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How to Buy the Perfect Engagement Ring


Getting engaged is a very big moment for anyone – and if you have been thinking of popping the question over the holidays, you definitely want every element of this special moment to be perfect.


But how do you buy the right engagement ring, though? We have some tips for you.

  • Find a reputable jeweler. Even though Millennials are famous for their affinity for buying a lot of things online, the truth is that a lot of them still want to make the big purchases in store – and the engagement ring definitely qualifies as such. If, however, you prefer buying the ring online, do make sure to find a reputable seller. As many of you know all too well, not everything online is legit, and you don’t want to pay a high price for a ring that will not resist the test of time.

  • Know what you buy. If you decide to buy a diamond ring (which is not necessarily the rule!), be aware of the 4 C’s of diamonds (color, carat, cut, and clarity). Furthermore, you’ll need to decide on the metal you want for your engagement ring and learn the main differences between all your options (sure, yellow gold is really easy to distinguish from white gold, but, for instance, do you know the difference between palladium and platinum?).

  • Know your loved one’s style. The shape of the stone, as well as the style of the ring as a whole matter a lot. This is not a piece of jewelry your fiancée will simply match with one outfit or another – it’s a piece that’s deeply symbolic and a piece that she will wear for the rest of her life. Buy her something she really loves!

  • Which brings us to another very important point: just because everyone these days is wearing white gold and diamonds on their engagement rings, it doesn’t mean that’s what your SO wants as well. At the end of the day, we are all different, and the engagement ring is not about the diamond. It’s about the meaning of the gesture and the personality of the one who will wear it. Think outside the box!


The setting of the stone, the budget, and whether or not you want to customize the ring are all decisions you should make before you make a purchase. Think things through, use your sensibility, but don’t forget that, in the end, this is an emotional purchase – so allow yourself to embrace the beauty of the moment too!

Creative Team
Photographer: Anna J. Photography
Planner/Designer & Floristry: Burlap & Bordeaux


How to Include Your Father in the Big Day


You love your father for being the man who made you trust life and yourself. For being the first man in your life – and the one who will always love you, unconditionally, no matter what happens. For being the man who showed you what caring and commitment means, so that you can one day find your own pair and know what these values really look like.

Of course, you want to make your pops feel ultra-special on your wedding day – but how do you include him? We have some tips for you – so read on and find out more.

  • Ask him to help with the planning. OK, your dad may not be the best when it comes to wedding dress styles and wedding color schemes. But he can surely help you with a very important part of the organization of the Big Day: finding the best vendors and negotiating the best contracts with them.

  • Ask him to give a speech. This is quite traditional, so he will most likely be ready for this anyway. However, do make sure to make a “formal” invitation for the speech – your dad has been dreaming of this moment ever since he held you in his arms for the first time, so he will more than appreciate it!

  • Give him the Father Daughter Dance. Not all couples include this dance, but most do. Be among those who do plan for a Father Daughter dance – trust us, it’s one of the single most emotional and beautiful moments in a wedding and you really don’t want to miss out on this!

  • Find a groomsmen-coordinated attire for him. The mothers and fathers of the bride and groom don’t have to dress like the wedding party. However, finding an attire for your father that is well coordinated with that of your groom and his groomsmen will make him feel part of the crew – and he will absolutely love this!

  • Ask him to be your day-of coordinator. Rely on your dad’s organization skills to make sure everything on the Big Day is perfectly well-planned – he will love doing this for you!

Your dad is amazing for having raised such an amazing lady. Dedicate a piece of your wedding day to him – it’s bound to create the kind of memories that will always come back to you in the years to come!

Creative Team
Venue: Quail Ranch 
Photographer: Rewind Photography
Wedding Planner, Designer, and Floristry: Burlap & Bordeaux
DJ: Dj Zeke SB
Catering: Command Performance
Rentals: A Rental Connection
Linens: Dreams America Linens


Ideas to Make Your Wedding More Personal


As the biggest workforce and the next big generation to get married, Millennials are changing the rules of the wedding game – and not just through the colors they use for the décor or the kind of attires they prefer to wear on the Big Day, but through the very way they see their weddings and the way they make them happen.

Personality and uniqueness are key words for Millennial couples – so it should be no surprise that most of the weddings are taking the road less walked on and leaving behind many traditions. And that is totally OK – after all, your Big Day is yours and you deserve to plan the kind of event you will look back at and genuinely smile every time.

What are some tips to make your own wedding more personal? Here are some of our top recommendations.

  • Decide which traditions work for you, and which of them don’t. Do you want a bouquet toss? Only about half of Millennial couples choose to have one at their wedding, so you wouldn’t be much of an exception if you chose to toss the bouquet toss. The same goes for pretty much every other wedding tradition – the First Dance, the Last Dance, the Cutting of the Cake, or, why not, the white wedding dress itself.

  • Skip the elements you’re not very keen on. Not a huge fan of the classic multi-tiered white wedding cake? That’s fine, you can find a million and one alternatives for it. A chocolate cake, a tower of cupcakes, a wall filled with doughnuts, or simply a table of your favorite pies – any of these are totally acceptable these days. The key here is to choose something you actually like.

  • Bring in your personality at every opportunity you get. Walk down the aisle alone, or to a heavy metal song if that speaks to you. Hold a bouquet made of paper roses. Get away on a bicycle. Go on a honeymoon six months after the wedding. Make your own rules – your generation is changing the landscape and creating a world of weddings that’s more diverse and more personal than ever!

More than anything, do everything with a smile on your face. Your wedding is one of the happiest days of your life and you deserve to do whatever makes you feel good – and if that’s eating burgers in a designer wedding gown, then so be it!

Creative Team
Venue: Rockwood Women’s Club
Design, Planning, floristry: Burlap & Bordeaux
Photography: Rewind Photography
Gelato Cart: Tondi Gelato
Catering/Cake: Catering Connection
Dj & Photobooth: DJ Zeke SB
Rentals: Amigo Party Rental
Invitations: LaurenLaurenLauren
Linens: Dream America Linens
Hair & Makeup: Kiss the Bride