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Who Should Actually Host the Bridal Shower?

Without doubt, every traditional pre-wedding event bears its own importance in building the right atmosphere during the actual Big Day. Above all others, though, the bridal shower is perhaps the most anticipated.


Who should host the bridal shower, though? The etiquette and common practice are frequently in disagreement here – but we will attempt to demystify what actually needs to be done (and why). Read on if you want to find out more!

  • Traditionally, the maid of honor is the host of the bridal shower – but she is normally helped by the other bridesmaids in the planning of the entire party. However, there are times when one of the other bridesmaids or even someone who isn’t in the bridal party takes the initiative – and that is totally fine.

  • Most frowns appear when one of the family members of the bride is the one hosting the bridal shower (and openly presenting themselves as the host of the shower). This is considered tacky because it used to make people think the bride (and her family) are asking for gifts. These days, however, it is completely OK for your mom or for your sister to plan the bridal shower – they know you so well and they care so much about you that this party is bound to be amazing!

  • Many brides are worried when nobody offers to plan the bridal shower for them – and it can be, indeed, an awkward situation. It is completely understandable if you feel disappointed because nobody asked you about this but do keep in mind that there might be a surprise party on the way.

  • If you find yourself in the position of gently asking your friend to plan a bridal shower for you, keep in mind that you should be modest about it. You don’t have to have a big bridal shower to enjoy the little gifts the ladies will bring you. At the end of the day, your bridal shower is meant to be a bonding experience for the main women who will be invited at your wedding. So it can definitely happen over mini sandwiches and a cup of tea, all sprinkled with good humor and positivity!

A bridal shower can be a delicate matter, indeed, but your friends love you and they definitely don’t want you to miss out on being showered with pretty gifts. Enjoy this – it is part of the amazing experience of being a bride!

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